When your children are talking to you, listen. Don’t just nod your head while you are watching television or reading the paper. don’t just pretend to listen to them.
Acknowledge and support your children’s struggle to grow to maturity. Understand. Try to sympathize with what your kids are going through. Look at life at least occasionally from their point of view. Remember that when you were their age, your ideas seemed to make sense to you.
All children hate to be lectured to, especially teenagers. Kids respond to clear information and direction, most of all when they know the questions they ask will be answered.
Throwing of useless labels will only confuse the real issues that you wish to address.
Talk to your children about what you feel and allow your children to talk about their feelings too.
Give your children choices, not orders. Help them to understand the consequences of their actions.
Describe your child’s positive and negative behavior and how it affects others. Be specific and give praise to reward good behavior. Do this at least as often (if not more so) as you criticize behavior that you do not like.
Asking your child too many questions only shuts off information. Give them the opportunity to volunteer their thoughts and feelings, while you show sincere interest.
Don’t Always Give the Answers
You want your children to be able to find their own answers or solutions to problems. You can help this by not giving them the answers all of the time.
Use Team Work
Work together with your child to lay out the problem then work together to find a mutually agreeable solution.
The Key Issue
You must tell your child that, NO MATTER WHAT, you will always love them.